Thought Processes

Changing the way I think is something I'm working diligently to improve. How I behave, perceive, and respond around my children and most importantly, my husband needs to change. I know nobody's perfect, but I have noticed I am turning into a "downer" and am even to the point of annoying myself.


One example of such change: There is a rather large mess of blocks on the floor, thank you Stacey. She's three by the way. The 'normal' thought process: "ugh what a mess! she knows not to leave all these blocks on the floor!" The average response? "Come pick up these blocks!" Where does that get you? For the most part, a very reluctant child, even if they are done playing.

Now I take a breath and think about why the blocks are there. Stacey was playing with those blocks because she felt creative inspiration, during her build, she constantly showed me how proud she was of her creations and discussed her ideas for future builds. I would make suggestions, and comment on her work. She loved the feedback. Those blocks are there to help her develop her creativity, not to annoy me. So, my new response? "Stacey, you made some very nice things with your blocks today. I really liked the way you arranged all the square ones on the 'grass' piece. Now that you're done, you should put them away, so none get lost and you can find them next time you want to play with your blocks." Her response? She told me that "I will build the blocks onto the car so they can park in the bin and be safe. The car will save them." Yes, this will be a slow process, but she IS cleaning them up without any fuss. I'll take what I can get to avoid unnecessary battles.


Just stopping to think WHY something is the way it is, or why someone would say/do something makes a big difference in how you perceive it. 


For example: Why would my husband leave his socks lying around in the most random places? Not so he can watch me pick them up and laugh to himself (though he may stare at my ass), not to cause more work for me. He does it because he is tired from a long day, and it feels absolutely awesome to take off socks you've been sweating in all day long. It's his "release" from it all. So I'll happily pick them up, knowing my man is comfortable and happy to be home spending time with me and our children.


I honestly cannot wait for my sexy man to be back, so I can pick up his socks again!


This was my first blog post. It may be boring to some, but it is voicing what is on my mind and what means a lot to me. So, if you do comment, please do so while leaving out any negativity.